No
Sometimes guys on OKCupid read my profile and comment on my asexuality right away, assuring me they’re not going to try to hit on me because “I saw you’re asexual–that’s cool with me, I understand.”
And I mean as much as I appreciate that they both understand I’m asexual AND understand that I said I’m only there for good chats and friendships … I wish it didn’t so often feel like they expect a hardline dealbreaker of an objective sort before they’d respect my disinterest. If I just wasn’t into them and didn’t have “a reason,” would they still be “cool” with it and claim to “understand”?
(Not that being asexual puts me off limits for every OKCupid propositioner, of course.)
So here we go.
- If I wasn’t asexual, you should still respect my “no.”
- If I wasn’t aromantic, you should still respect my “no.”
- A lesbian shouldn’t have to say she’s a lesbian for you to respect her “no.”
- A person with a partner shouldn’t have to say they’re in a relationship for you to respect their “no.”
- A married person shouldn’t have to say they’re married for you to respect their “no.”
- A person who doesn’t want to get into a long-distance relationship shouldn’t have to say so before you’ll respect their “no.”
- A person who has had casual sex with other people should still be able to say “no” to you without being disrespected.
- A person who is not dating right now should still be able to say “no” to you without being disrespected.
- A person shouldn’t have to have an age range you don’t fit into before you’ll respect their “no.”
- A sex worker should still be able to say “no” to sex (even paid sex) with you without being disrespected.
- A person who dates someone else after they refused to date you should not be subjected to disrespect.
- A person who wouldn’t feel comfortable dating you because of circumstances you can’t control (your age, whether you’ve had kids, where you live) should not be confronted with disrespect.
- No one should feel like they have to have an excuse not to date you.
- “I don’t want to” should always be enough.
