Ace Spectrum
Here are some designs from my Society6 and Redbubble focusing on Ace Spectrum sexualities!
Descriptions of the sexualities and links to the merch can be found below the cut!
This blog supports
👬gay aces👬
👭lesbian aces👭
🚴biromantic aces🚴
🚺transgender aces🚹
🍳panromantic aces🍳
👩🏾aces of color👱🏿
🚻non-binary aces🚻
✖️agender aces✖️
🌀genderfluid aces🌀
♠️aromantic aces♠️
💑heteromantic aces💑
🌸sex-favorable aces🌸
🌹sex-neutral aces🌹
🌷sex-repulsed aces🌷
♥️grey aces♥️
🌙neurodivergent aces🌙
❔questioning aces❔
🌐all aces🌐
Like you look at histories of heteronormative violence against women often it’s entirely impossible to differentiate who would belong to any given identity group today.
You have situations where women were placed in institutions for “frigidity” and otherwise refusing/being unable to conform to these ideas of wifely duties, were subjected to medicalized torture, corrective rape, often had their entire lives stolen from them.
Some of these women were lesibans and some of them were ace/aro, or at least would probably think about themselves that way if they lived today. Some were CSA/rape survivors with trauma, and some were simply women who had been forced to marry a man who they didn’t want to have sex with. More often than not these categories overlapped.
There is no way to be sure how any one of these women would have identified. Their thoughts and feelings are lost in the past, forgotten, viewed as no value. Even if we could speak to them today the labels that we use today to understand ourselves might not make a lot of sense to them.
We can’t differentiate between these individuals without engaging in ahistorical reification. You can’t lump everyone together and say “this is lesbian history and it is a history of violence” without violently erasing those women who were not lesbians, or even for that matter those cafab people caught up in this net who, if given the opportunity, would not have identified as women.
The one thing that’s clear is that there is an obvious shared history here between lesbians and ace/aros, and that is a history of trauma, violence and corrective rape. Anyone who attempts to claim otherwise is being dishonest.
Also lets not leave out straight transmen. They have also been put through all of this.
Today’s Queer Headcanon of the Day is: Hobbits as a race are asexual, and almost always only have sex for procreation.
all aces are beautiful ðŸŒ
bi aces are beautiful 🌠
pan aces are beautiful 🌠
gay aces are beautiful 🌠
lesbian aces are beautiful 🌠
aro aces are beautiful 🌠
het aces are beautiful 🌠
demi aces are beautiful 🌠
grey aces are beautiful 🌠
aces that are still figuring things out are beautiful 🌠
ur all lovely and i’m proud of u 🌠
Mainstream LGBTQ/Queer Support For Asexuality
GLAAD makes changes to a program and explicitly announces their support of ace, aro, and agender people.
http://www.glaad.org/blog/asexual-agender-aromantic
The Trevor Project made an effort to help support asexual people.
http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/asexuality
Matthew’s Place ran a series about asexuality.
http://www.matthewsplace.com/asexuality/
Huffington Post changes the name of a section of their site, specifically mentioning asexuality as one of the contributing reasons.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/huffpost-gay-voices-changed-name-huffpost-queer-voices_us_56a78f78e4b0172c659422f9And that’s after they wrote a number of articles about us.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/news/asexuality/Even Dan Savage got (somewhat) better.
http://www.thestranger.com/columns/savage-love/2015/05/27/22283509/savage-love
The Advocate has run several positive stories about asexuality.
http://www.advocate.com/pride/2015/07/20/21acestories-sex-drive-relationships-and-other-misconceptions
http://www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/books/2012/07/24/asexuals-among-us
http://www.advocate.com/arts-entertainment/television/2015/01/27/no-sex-no-problem
So has Gay Star News.
http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/here-are-11-biggest-asexual-myths-busted300315/#gs.lOZu4Rk
http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/first-asexual-politician/#gs.yaY5ZLE
http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/dr-ruth-says-asexuals-shouldnt-exist-internet-responds-in-the-best-way/#gs.sHNd9dc
Positive “Jughead is Asexual!” stories were published in many LGBTQ/Queer publications.
http://lgbtpost.com/archie-comics-reveals-jughead-is-asexual/
https://www.washingtonblade.com/2016/02/09/archie-comics-reveals-jughead-is-asexual/
http://www.lgbtqnation.com/2016/02/archie-comics-reveals-jughead-is-asexual/
http://www.glaad.org/blog/glaad-wrap-archie-comics-reveals-asexual-character-magicians-renewed-and-more
Colleges and universities with LGBTQ Campus Groups/QRCs/etc. that explicitly mention supporting asexual people:
- Northern Kentucky University: https://lgbtq.nku.edu/
- University of Illinois Urbana: http://guides.library.illinois.edu/lgbtq
- Williams College: http://lgbt.williams.edu/about/
- Western Washington University (They changed their name, citing inclusion of asexual students as a reason.): http://as.wwu.edu/qrc/
- UNC Chapel Hill: https://lgbtq.unc.edu/asexuality-attraction-and-romantic-orientation
- UCLA: http://www.lgbt.ucla.edu/aboutus1.html
- University of Wisconsin: https://lgbt.wisc.edu/
- University of North Georgia: http://ung.edu/multicultural-student-affairs/lgbtq.php
And all this is from just a few minutes of quick searches. There is more. Much, much more.
Anonymous asked:
I identify as asexual and aromantic, but I'm afraid that this is not my real sexuality, that I'm just, how acephobes say, a "late bloomer", and this is a big struggle because asexuality describes perfectly how I feel, and also the idea of having sex and having a relationship makes me uncomfortable but I can't stop think about this. Help me please.
fuckyeahasexual answered:
Anxiety and depression and all the other things that come with doubting yourself are bad for your health. I think its far better to experiment with labels and be quote unquote “”wrong“” then it is to force yourself to be straight until proven otherwise. I think the shaming of this experimentation is a form of phobia then itself.
Asexuality by Tiny Dinosaur :)!
Funny this popped up cause Ive really been questioning if im asexual or not for like the past year.
Anonymous asked:
Ok I have the hardest time understanding asexuality. I never hear a clear or consistent definition. Cause from what I've heard. You can have sex if asexual, you can masturbate if asexual, you can have a sexual relationship if you are asexual. You can be in love if asexual. You can have kids if asexual? I'm not trying to criticize I just don't understand. What does asexual not let you do if you are asexual? Cause that seems like a lot of sex for an asexual.
0llie-0llie-deactivated20150826 answered:
Don’t worry, anon, it took me a long time to properly understand it as well.
Asexuality’s most clear and consistent definition is ‘the lack of sexual attraction to other gender(s)’. Basically, it means that they can be romantically attracted to other genders (’I want to date you and be in love with you’), they can be aesthetically attracted to other genders (’Long hair on guys is extremely attractive to me’), but they cannot be sexually attracted to other genders (’I think you’re sexy and I get horny at the sight of you, let’s fuck’).
The idea behind the statements that asexuals can have sex or masturbate is because most asexuals have the body health to experience pleasure from sexual acts. For example, an asexual would not want to sleep with someone because they find them sexy, but because it feels good to have sex. Same with masturbation. Additionally, some asexuals (often female asexuals) will have sex so they can become pregnant and have a child, because you obviously don’t need to have sexual attraction to your partner to want a family.
And, being in love is related to romantic attraction (homoromantic, heteroromantic, biromantic, panromantic, and aromantic). This describes whom you feel romantically attracted to, whom you want to date. A homoromantic female asexual would want to date fellow females, but would not feel horny around them.
That being said, most asexuals are not interested in sex at all, and some are not interested in masturbation. Most asexuals also have a low sex drive and libido and wouldn’t want to take part in sexual activity anyway. This is also why many asexuals prefer to date other asexuals, because allosexuals (that being any non-asexual identity) sometimes feel incompatible with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with them, or asexuals feel pressured into having sex.
All in all, asexuality comes down to sexual attraction, and libido is not related to it. An asexual can be interested in people romantically, they can enjoy sexual activity for pleasure or for family purposes, they can dislike all of the above and prefer to just cuddle - it is up to the individual person.
theasexualityblog Did I explain this well?
Yes, you did. The only thing I would add is that an asexual could also want sex for intimacy reasons (i.e. A way to be close with their partner or express affection)
THE ASEXUAL AGENDA: educate as many people as possible on asexuality so nobody has to feel lost and broken and bad about who they are ever again
Bringing this back.
for all of u who dont understan or want to understand wat an asexual person is
Raising asexual awareness every reblog
For once a useful post
I described it to Tebs as someone else having a most favorite food that they crave, and you just feeling kind of neutral on it
