a mess
Just some problems I’ve been having lately haha
Friendly reminder that your identity is valid at any point in your life. Being fluid doesn’t make you a fake.
genderqueer? genderfluid? NB? queer? [I’ve had a lot of labels over the years. If you don’t know what your label is, that’s ok]💛💛
Everyone needs a supportive fairy godperson like Jeffrey Marsh.
Anonymous asked:
Dear Fandom Mum, I come to you with A Question. I've been thinking about my romantic orientation a lot lately. I'm in my mid 20s and I know that I'm heterosexual, I don't feel any sexual attraction to women. But I do appreciate beauty in women, and I almost feel like I have a "type" in them. But more like aesthetically speaking, if you know what I mean? Thing is, ever since I started speaking about love and sexuality with my friends in college I've always said that I can't imagine having (1/2)
anotherwellkeptsecret answered:
… sex with a woman, but I have no problem kissing them or having them touch me. I have also said for years that I could imagine loving a woman, “regardless” of their gender. The question is, do you think I could be biromantic? Or am I just being needy/selfish when I imagine I could love and be loved by someone of my own gender but I couldn’t be able to pleasure them because sexually I don’t swing that way at all? (2/2)
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There are several different types of attraction. Sexual, sensual, romantic, platonic, and aesthetic. You don’t have to have one to have another, if that makes sense. You can be sexually attracted to someone, but not romantically attracted to them. You can be aesthetically attracted to someone, but not sensually attracted to them. I mean, there are SO MANY combinations you can have for each person! Like, I’m aesthetically and sensually attracted to this person over here, which means I like hugging on them and cuddling with them and I think they’re really great to look at, but I have no interest in romance or sex. Just imagine the combinations! And each person you know has their own specific combo, if you get what I mean.
Only you can decide what you are. Sometimes labels work and sometimes they don’t. And sometimes we meet exceptions to the rule. Sometimes we don’t. You’re not being anything but yourself. If your body says it’s a no go, it’s a no go. There’s no lack of trying involved, here. That’s like trying to make my eyes see better if I squint just the right way. =)
Don’t stress, lovely. If you’re not sure of a label, don’t worry about it overmuch. Just keep your mind and heart open if a special someone should come along. Otherwise, listen to what your body tells you.
Cake Ask
ask is here
Ok so some anon told me to do all the cakes??? (they’re probably Mycroft in disguise)
White cake: Amanda, and I identify as female but am pretty androgynous in terms of how I think and physically express myself. I haven’t found a label I feel comfortable with so I just like to explain my current feelings to people ehe
Carrot cake: I have a crush on my gf ehehe
Cheesecake: This is a really hard one. I have a new favorite song every week. “Intro” by the XX has been a favorite of mine for a long time because I frequently listen to it while doing art, schoolwork, or studying. Typically I just go on 8tracks and listen to calm indie or indie pop forever
Chocolate cake: the nautical and galaxy aesthetics are tacky as hell but I love them. In terms of fashion, I love everything thats more in the agender spectrum, like floral mens shirts or when female outfits are masculinized with blazers, leather, a baggier cut, or waistcoats.
Red velvet cake: I’m asexual panromantic, but may be updating this label soon.
Lemon cake: …. I’m probably a problematic fave
Strawberry cake: You mean a cool person?? Ah well pandoyareblogs called me a pure cinnamon roll so I suppose she’s mine as well ;)
Pumpkin spice cake: All friends that I’ve had since early school are my problematic faves, 100%
Blueberry cake: Skiing, writing, reading, drawing, sewing, cosplaying, overall being an artsy nerd
Fruit cake: I would like to either get out of or fully come to terms with my anxiety, I want to be 100% confident with my identity even if people negatively confront me about who I am and how I express it and live my life, I want to be a designer in one way or another (idk if it’s going to be character design, fashion design, or what. I just love design and fine art), and I want to be someone that people look up to or easily like.
Rainbow cake: my lock screen is this cramped rainbow city apartment thing
and I keep changing my homescreen from being my girlfriend and other random pics when I’m with people that I’m shy around ehehe
“Being mistaken for a man or confronted with my ‘male’ appearance is nothing out of the ordinary for me. It happens all the time. Whether in public restrooms, at the security check in airports, at work or in the waiting room at the gynecologist, at the job center, at the national register, in clubs, bars, shops, on the street, and so on and on. Every time it hurts. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
Two years ago, when a car full of young guys pulled up next to me on the street, shouting and threatening me, because I didn’t match their idea of a woman, I decided I had to start something. I wanted to meet people who like me, identify as women, but who are frequently being mistaken for another gender, and consequently harassed, insulted or humiliated in public or within their families. So far I have photographed more than 50 women, and collected their stories. Some of which you can see and read here.
This is an ongoing project. I want to create an awareness of the multiple ways people can identify with and express their gender in spite of being constantly confronted and questioned and put down by a narrow minded society.” —Goodyn Green (photographer, pictured above in topmost photo)
I love this photo series, and it certainly hits close to home for me. I identify as a woman, but get mistaken for a male pretty frequently because of the way I look and dress. I get “sir’d” quite often. I’m pretty used to it by now, but it always irks me a bit. One particular thing that comes to mind is using public restrooms. Sometimes women come in, see me, then go back out and check the sign on the door to see if they’re in the right bathroom. Sometimes they ask me if I’m a boy or a girl. Sometimes they say to me, “this is the women’s room.” Sometimes they just stare. Once someone said, “oh, I didn’t know they allow boys in here now.” Whatever you identify as, however you look, remember, there is nothing wrong with you. Be exactly who you are, and be proud. And share awesome projects like this to raise awareness!
what’s worse: accepting your daughter’s gender identity or burying her because you couldn’t?
