… sex with a woman, but I have no problem kissing them or having them touch me. I have also said for years that I could imagine loving a woman, “regardless” of their gender. The question is, do you think I could be biromantic? Or am I just being needy/selfish when I imagine I could love and be loved by someone of my own gender but I couldn’t be able to pleasure them because sexually I don’t swing that way at all? (2/2)

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There are several different types of attraction. Sexual, sensual, romantic, platonic, and aesthetic. You don’t have to have one to have another, if that makes sense. You can be sexually attracted to someone, but not romantically attracted to them. You can be aesthetically attracted to someone, but not sensually attracted to them. I mean, there are SO MANY combinations you can have for each person! Like, I’m aesthetically and sensually attracted to this person over here, which means I like hugging on them and cuddling with them and I think they’re really great to look at, but I have no interest in romance or sex. Just imagine the combinations! And each person you know has their own specific combo, if you get what I mean. 

Only you can decide what you are. Sometimes labels work and sometimes they don’t. And sometimes we meet exceptions to the rule. Sometimes we don’t. You’re not being anything but yourself. If your body says it’s a no go, it’s a no go. There’s no lack of trying involved, here. That’s like trying to make my eyes see better if I squint just the right way. =)

Don’t stress, lovely. If you’re not sure of a label, don’t worry about it overmuch. Just keep your mind and heart open if a special someone should come along. Otherwise, listen to what your body tells you.